A Eulogy Should Include Any of the Below
- The person's age and where they were born and lived
- Family and close relationships
- Life achievements
- Clubs or societies
- Hobbies and interests
- Memories and anecdotes
- Poems, stories, and/or religious writings
A eulogy speech commemorates a loved one who has passed away and typically takes place at a memorial service or funeral.
The eulogy includes a summary of the life of the deceased with information about family, friends, working life, hobbies or interests, and personal achievements.
Including memories of the person such as music, readings from prayers or poetry will personalise the eulogy.
To be truly authentic the eulogy is written with feeling, a perfect piece of prose isn't expected in order to resonate with the listeners.
Being asked to carry out the role falls to someone who was a significant person in the life of the deceased, creating a connection between the life lost and those who remain. The words will create an emotional bridge by way of memories and anecdotes, the audience will be reminded of the unique life lived by their loved one with positive and happy retelling of days reminisced.
By making the words personal between the reader, the audience and the deceased a lifetimes bond will be reinforced.
Times spent together, experiences shared, early days of the relationship with funny and emotional memories will all be appreciated as will the sadness of the shared experiences that will now be missed.
An Authentic Tribute
Speaking to family, friends and workmates will all help in creating a truly authentic tribute and send off for the deceased.
Prepare the words in an orderly manner in whatever format you prefer, not too short or too long. Eulogies should celebrate the life of the person with sufficient to give a true recollection, lifting the mood with humour while also conveying the sadness of the loss in respect of people who are grieving.
Prepare the talk in your own heartfelt words rather than formal so the listeners will feel relaxed, engaged and emotionally connected as if in conversation.
Ask close family or friends to read it before the day to make sure no one is offended or left out, use a mobile phone recording facility to test and practice how it sounds, read it out aloud yourself by way of practice to be sure you're as familiar as possible without the need to memorise completely. Once you and others have reviewed it it will be ready for the day with your notes always handy for reference.
Don't be too concerned about a level of performance for the audience and instead keep in mind the doing justice to people's memory of the deceased who should be foremost in your mind.
Try not to rush, take deliberate pauses to draw breath and compose yourself and then speak from the heart.
- In the event you might need this, ask a friend or family member to be available to help and give them a copy of the reading.
- Be prepared to be emotional, this is normal in these circumstances and you may need help.
- Remember, in all likelihood, you will find strength and rise to the task.